Posts Tagged ‘Success’
Wednesday, August 18th, 2010
The ‘Law of Non-Resistance’ is the first in the series of ‘The 11 Forgotten Laws’ that should expand our understanding of the Law of Attraction. “Whatever you resist, persists”. When you resist something, you actively give it energy. We have talked before about how the Universe deals with absolutes – in other words, there is no distinction between ‘I want’ and ‘I do not want’. You always get the thing in question. That is why the Universe can’t tell the difference between you actively trying to attract something versus you trying to resist something. In either case it’s coming your way.
Does that mean you cannot have undesirable things around you? Not at all. We live in a complex world that we share with other people. As long as you are dealing with other people, you’ll come across desirable and undesirable people, events, and circumstances. The lesson here is not to try to push away the undesirable. Just let go and let it be. Give your energy to what you want.
Until next time,
V
Tags: 11 Fogotten Laws, Bob Proctor, Energy, goals, Happiness, Human Behavior, Inspiration, Law Of Attraction, Neo-Spirituality, Success, Universe
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Tuesday, August 17th, 2010
I have heard people claim that the Law of Attraction does not work for them. It’s a really bizarre statement, since how can a law work for some and not for others. If it is a law, then it must by definition work each and every time, for every person, in every situation. What could be happening is that it works differently to how people expect it to work.
The basic premise is that you attract into your life whatever you are aligned with in terms of your thoughts (conscious and non-conscious) and feelings. You are always attracting things into your life, but you may be attracting things that you don’t necessarily want. That being said, there are other laws in the Universe that have not been popularized to the same extent as the Law of Attraction through the movie The Secret.
I came across some material online by Bob Proctor where he talks about the ‘11 Forgotten Laws’ that relate to the Law of Attraction. The way Bob Proctor put it was that the Law of Attraction is a single ingredient in a cake, but you need other ingredients to make it. Over the next little while I’ll cover the different laws, which will hopefully give you some useful information.
Until next time,
V
Tags: 11 Fogotten Laws, Bob Proctor, Energy, goals, Law Of Attraction, Money, Neo-Spirituality, Success, The Secret, Universe
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Tuesday, August 10th, 2010
Changes often happen in our lives so slowly that we don’t even notice the progress. It’s only when we look back to a time in our distant (or maybe not so distant) past that we get an idea of how far we have gone and how much we have changed.
Kids provide a good example. Parents typically don’t see how much their kids really grow and change. Friends of family who tend to visit once or twice a year really notice the difference. It’s that same with many other areas in life.
Whenever you try something new, it is difficult at first, and obviously gets easier as you do it more. The only way to appreciate your growth is to have a frame of reference to where you were in the past. Seeing the growth serves as a good reminder of where you have been and provides motivation to keep moving forward. So find a way to keep track of your progress – it will help you appreciate where you are and will serve as the fuel to keep trucking along.
Until next time,
V
Tags: Action, Energy, Fear, goals, Human Behavior, Inspiration, Personal Power, Success
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Thursday, August 5th, 2010
Today I have a success/achievement tip for you – benefits of which I you’ll be able to experience for yourself the first time you apply it. How’s that for quick results? Anyway, here we go…
If you have something that you want to do but never get to it, do it first thing in the morning before you do anything else. Anthony Robbins called this ‘the hour of power’ where you take the first hour after you wake up and use it as ‘your time’ for that important activity that you never get to. It can be reading, writing, playing a musical instrument, or going for a run. The activity does not matter – what matters is that you get it done.
This surely requires some discipline, especially if you have to be at work at a certain time and need to wake up an hour earlier to create that time cushion. And it is a lot easier to sleep that extra hour when you know you can too – I would know 
. But all that is still easier than finding time for your activity later in the day. Something always seems to creep up and get in the way. That is why you do your task first thing in the morning before anything has a chance to get in the way. Give it a try and see for yourself….
Until next time,
V
Tags: Action, Energy, goals, Human Behavior, Inspiration, intentions, Personal Power, Response-ability, Responsibility, Success, Tony Robbins
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Wednesday, August 4th, 2010
I am a total sucker for a good conversation. This weekend I had a great pleasure of spending some time with a friend who is the most intellectually stimulating person that I know. A good dinner, couple bottles of wine, and good conversation led to a very memorable evening. Thinking of that reminded me of something I’ve noticed before – what different people tend to talk about.
There is a great quote by Admiral Hyman Rickover that seems to beautifully and elegantly capture what I have observed over time. The quote goes like this: “Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, small minds discuss people.”
When I compare the topics of conversations that I have with people who I truly enjoy spending time with to the conversations that are neither here nor there, the quote totally applies. And people who gossip all the time? Well, I keep far away from them.
Until next time,
V
Tags: Human Behavior, Inspiration, Relationships, Success
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Friday, July 30th, 2010
One time, early in my entrepreneurial days, I was dealing with a rather difficult and demanding customer. I was in a rush and happened to write an email that was straight to the point. There was nothing particularly wrong with it – it wasn’t offensive or anything – but it did not have the usual pleasantry fluff. She lost it at that point and showered me with a number of ‘compliments’, but there was one thing in particular that stood out and served me as a very good lesson in further communication with all clients (and people). She said that “you’ll attract more bees with honey than vinegar.” How true!
Scolding or lecturing people rarely works, and I would go so far as to say that it never works. People can’t stand criticism and rarely see themselves at fault anyway. We always justify our actions to ourselves and to others and find excuses to feel OK about them. Fighting this is to go against human nature, which always a losing affair. Instead, it is much more effective to find more constructive and positive ways to deal with people.
In other words, be nice! And enjoy the long weekend!
Until Tuesday,
V
Tags: Communication, Happiness, Human Behavior, Relationships, Success
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Thursday, July 29th, 2010
“Education is the ability to meet life’s situations.”
- John Hibben
What an elegant way to put it, don’t you think? For quite some time I had a misconception that it is the grades, diplomas, degrees, and your IQ that determined your level of education and predicted your level of success in life. I don’t believe that anymore; in fact, that is probably pretty far away from the truth.
I said several times before that knowledge by itself is rather useless. The application of knowledge is powerful. But it’s rare that the challenges life presents us with have a lot to do with our formal education. Most of the time, at least in my experience, I have to deal with things not related to Engineering. We do well when we are able to deal with, and overcome those challenges, and that is true ‘education’.
Until next time,
V
Tags: Communication, Happiness, Human Behavior, Personal Power, Relationships, Success
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Thursday, July 22nd, 2010
Relationships with other people play a vital role in our lives. It all stems back to the times our ancestors lived in caves, when creating, building, and maintaining relationships with other members of the tribe is what allowed them to survive in that environment. It simply was not possible to mature and leave offspring without it. As the society evolved, that basic importance of relating to others has not changed.
Today our survival, success, and even happiness depends on the quality of the relationships that we are able to develop. When we are born, it is essential for us to create a bond with our mothers in order to survive. Our happiness is correlated to the health of our relationships with other people. And success is really all about ‘who you know’.
Can you make it ‘on your own’? Sure. But it will never be as quickly, or to the same degree as when you involve other people. Connections are huge, and this holds true around the world. At the end of the day, people can open doors for you, and I’m willing to bet that there is a very strong positive correlation between the number of such people that you know and your success.
Until next time,
V
Tags: Action, Communication, goals, Human Behavior, Money, Relationships, Success
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Tuesday, July 20th, 2010
Last Friday I summarized the Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs and pointed out that a similar hierarchy applied to business as well.
When a person starts a business, especially if it’s their first one, they start at the bottom of the ‘pyramid of needs’. This person will do almost anything to get things moving – they will cold-call, randomly visit other businesses, leave flyers, go to networking events, and take on pretty much any job that comes their way. This is similar to the ‘Physiological/Safety Needs’ described by Maslow, only applied to business.
As the business grows, establishes itself, builds a reputation, and clients start coming in, the owner becomes more selective. He or she will stop doing the really uncomfortable things, like cold-calling for example, and will maybe just get someone else to distribute the flyers. The owner may fire some annoying clients and start filtering the incoming prospects so that the business gets to serve a higher ratio of ‘better’ customers (whatever that means for the given business). This is where the business meets the ‘Esteem Needs’ of self-esteem, confidence, and achievement.
When the business becomes a powerhouse to be reckoned with, it will likely develop a bigger purpose. It will want to try to revolutionize the industry by doing something no other company has accomplished, or possibly even tried. It will set grandiose goals and come up with an inspiring mission statement. At this point, chances are, the business only focuses on what the company culture as a whole is really passionate about. It is working on the ‘Self-actualization Needs’.
There is a strong parallel between the individual needs and the ‘business needs’ because it is people who run businesses. As the business grows, more of their individual needs are met, which shifts them up the pyramid, which also shifts their business focus.
Until next time,
V
Tags: Action, Energy, goals, Human Behavior, Inspiration, Maslow's Hierarchy Of Needs, Success
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Friday, July 16th, 2010
I am pretty sure that you are familiar with the Mr. Maslow and his ‘hierarchy of needs’ pyramid. In case you are not, I’ll try to summarize it for you. It is pyramid made of 5 levels of different needs and the lower level must always be met before we can effectively become concerned about the needs on the higher level. The 5 levels are as follows (starting at the lower one):
- Physiological (air, food, water, sleep, etc)
- Safety (security for the ‘self’, stable employment, etc)
- Love/Belonging (friendship, family, intimacy, etc)
- Esteem (self-esteem, confidence, achievement, etc)
- Self-actualization (morality, creativity, problem-solving, etc)
Trying to tackle ‘self-actualization’ needs when your ‘basic safety’ needs are not met, will not be effective according to Maslow’s theory. And it makes sense.
Now to switch gears a little bit, in my conversations with different people who have their own businesses, and from what I gathered from interviews with some very successful individuals, I have noticed that their business approach falls into somewhat of the similar hierarchy. And it seems to be related to how well the business (or the entrepreneur) is doing. [ This post is going to be quite long if I cover the rest of what I want to mention, so I’ll leave that for next week. ]
Until Monday,
V
Tags: Action, Energy, goals, Human Behavior, Maslow's Hierarchy Of Needs, Success
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