Success Blog: Psychology, Human Behaviour, Self-Development, Relationships, and Affirmations

I’m pretty confident in saying that there is no person in this world (except for me maybe) who has not attempted to influence someone else’s behaviour by feeling bad for the self. It’s a really strange behaviour, if you ask me. To get some attention/love/caring/my way, I am going to put myself in a negative state so that another person (or people) feel bad for me and do what I ’secretly’ want them to do. Do you know anyone like that?

Every time I contemplated this, I’ve come to the same conclusion – you can always get that what you seek without resorting to the ‘feel bad for me’ state. The other conclusion that I came to is that this is unlikely to change, unless people take their understanding of the self to another level. Why do I say that? Because this is one of the first things that we learn as infants – we cry and we get attention from our mother. Pretty quickly we as children figure out that by crying we will get attention, love, caring, and often our way. Then we take those lessons with us through life.

How often do you play ‘victim’ in order to get something? Do you think that serves you very well? Can you come up with alternatives?

Until next time,

V

Tags: Communication, Human Behavior, Irrational Behavior, Personal Power, Relationships, Response-ability

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