My theory is very unorthodox. I may not be the first one who came up with this, but I have not heard it anywhere nor have I read it anywhere. But first, let’s lay a foundation.
One of the comments on a recent post talked about how we eliminate many personal hobbies and favourite activities as we get into a relationship, and how we dive into those activities when the relationship is over. Been there – done that – lost many friends in the process. I now see it as a ‘rookie mistake’ and will never again use a relationship as a reason to not do the things I love – ever! So here we have a need (and I believe that it is in fact ‘a need’) for individual expression.
The other aspect of the foundation for my theory is something that I have touched on only a little bit in the post on how we often treat strangers better than family and friends. I will talk more about it in the future, but for the time being, it seems to me that the more time people spend together (and the less time they spend doing other things they love), the higher the chance of them being frustrated with the little things. I have seen couples fight (and have fought myself) over the stupidest little non-issues and in my opinion, personal space is the solutions in many cases.
So my theory for happy living is *drum roll* to have separate residences with your ’significant other’. Revolutionary, I know! Yes, it would be more expensive (but so is good food), and will make the whole ‘raising the kids’ thing a little more challenging (if you want kinds), but I’m willing to bet that if people made the commitment to each other (this eliminates those early break-ups due to incompatibility) and maintained separate residences, the divorce rates would be significantly lower.
Alright…bring it on! I’m ready to take the heat!
Until Monday,
V
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